relationships

the one

Have you found “the one”? Or has “the one” got “stuck in traffic”? Whatever stage you are at, worrying and rushing won’t really help. Things will fall into place at the right time, just keep the faith… 😉

Valentine’s day is fast approaching so I thought this story might inspire some people.

I’ve been asked a number of times on how I met my husband and how I knew that he’s the one.

My husband and I used to work in the same company together but we were in different departments and hardly spoke with one another. Come to think of it, I mostly mingle with the people I dealt with regularly.

Here’s how our first meeting went:
I was wandering around the office holding a large envelope when he approached me and asked “Are you looking for me?”. (Apparently, he saw his name written on the envelope.)

With a blank stare, I replied with a frosty “No” and walked away.

After several months, we ended up chatting and learned that we both like to watch anime at some point in our lives. We started talking about Ranma ½, Sailor Moon, Dragonball Z, Naruto, Slam Dunk, etc.. Exchanging emails, chatting and going out for a hot beverage every now and then led to a good friendship.

At that stage of my life, I was no longer interested in entering a relationship and was planning to be single for life. I was already in my 30s and was seriously considering “the back up plan” (similar to the movie “The Back Up Plan”… check it out if you haven’t seen it yet).

Although he had been single for almost four years, he was a bit apprehensive to start dating again after getting out of a draining 5-year relationship.

Cupid probably worked overtime to get us together because it took awhile before the friendship blossomed into a relationship.

Did it go smoothly?
Nope.

The first three months was a roller coaster ride.

On top of all the typical challenges that a relationship has, we also needed to work out our cultural differences and language barrier. Suffice to say, we had some hurdles to overcome; I prayed daily that the relationship end sooner than later if he wasn’t “the one”.

As they say, if it’s meant to be… it will be.

The key to overcoming our differences was communication, compromise, and saying sorry when you’re at fault.

The rest is history.

After two years of dating, we had our wedding 1.0 followed by wedding 2.0. Why two weddings?

Hmmm…. until next post… 🙂

Sasa & Gege

In as much as I would like to be a silent follower of Sasa (Sarah Geronimo) & Gege (Gerald Anderson)… I must say, I could no longer contain it! I’m now a super fan! My little sisters, Fritchie Anderson and DJ Mitch, are now getting infected with my “contagious” admiration for Sasa & Gege! Ha! (Click here to read related article about Sasa & Gege- “birth”)

courtesy of: sarahgeronimo.ph — Sasa & Gege

I’m really going bonkers! Out of the blue (whether I’m on the street walking or in the work place or wherever), I would “belt out” the theme songs of their two (2) movie-team up, I won’t last a day without you and Fallin’. And of course, its out of tune! :p

Catch Me I'm In Love — Catch Me I’m In Love (“Fallin'”)

courtesy of: Ashrald — Won’t Last a Day Without You

Their love team & courtship stage is sending followers all over the world in frenzy! An “old” lady like me can even feel a shiver down my spine just by watching them (even if they are just looking at each other!). Their love story is absolutely an epic!

courtesy of: PiweLoveSarahG — click image to view the video

courtesy of: kalabawmoo — click image to view the video

***Note: If you can’t understand Tagalog, just watch their actions. 😀

Sarah, being a true blue Filipina (in all ways), is definitely a rare gem! Her preference for her suitors to woo her parents first makes her a total knock out! Considering that Gege (a Filipino – American) grew up in the U.S.A., it’s fascinating to see how he abides to Sarah’s wish and follow the Filipino old-fashioned way of courtship. Also, he’s all out in shouting to the world how much he cares for Sasa, protecting her and makes time to be with her even if his schedule is so hectic! Whew! Weaklings can’t do that right M.A. and T.W.? :p

courtesy of: Ge30412 — click image to view the video

*** Note: If you can’t understand Tagalog, just watch their actions. 😀

Whether we admit it or not, we all dream of this kind of courtship and relationship. By watching Sasa and Gege’s friendship transform into something special makes us realize that dreams do come true. I guess, that’s the reason why a lot of people (young and old) are drawn to their blossoming relationship and magical moments. Aside from giving an automatic smile on our face, it certainly gives hope and inspiration to all of us. Agree?

courtesy of AshRalds — Gege visiting Sasa in her TV Commercial shoot

By respecting their privacy to date freely will definitely ease up the pressure that they are receiving right now. Like what the Popsters, Ashralds, and other Sasa & Gege’s supporters always say, the best way to help them is to work hand in hand in praying for their relationship to last a lifetime. They deserve it! Let’s unite in spreading positive vibes!

Now, while patiently waiting for the next chapter of their love story… I’ll continue reading Kate Joaquin’s “Never Gonna Let You Go – AshRald Fan Fiction” and BornToShare’s (Does anyone know BornToShare’s real name?) “Slowly But Surely – AshRald Fan Fiction”. “AshRald Fan Fictions” are an ongoing imaginary tale about Sasa & Gege.

Never Gonna Let You Go - AshRald Fan Fiction — Click the image to read the Never Gonna Let You Go – AshRald Fan Fiction

*** Note: I haven’t met Kate yet but I saw her “script” via Facebook. She’s a 17-year old fan of Sasa & Gege. And she has the making of an excellent writer! Whoa! I suggest you check it out. Keep it up Kate! 😀

*** Note:I just discovered the Slowly But Surely – AshRald Fan Fiction! Please give me a buzz if you know the writer’s name so that I can post it on my blog. 🙂 I’m so excited to start reading it. I’m sure it’s as awesome as Never Gonna Let You Go. Wheeey! Way to go BornToShare! 😉

***Update: I’ve read Slowly But Surely and I admit… I cried!!!!!!!!!! OMG! Wendelyn Dianne (@wendelyndianne) is such a passionate writer! You betcha! Finally, after researching her name for ages, I found it! Thanks to Kate (@imisshockends) for ending my “agony”. 😀 I’m just so happy because they are also now my twitter friends. I love AshRald and AshRaldTOS! 🙂

P.S. OMG, did I just sound like a PR Manager for Sasa & Gege?

More Sasa & Gege videos:
http://ashrald.com/videos.html
http://ashrald.com/videos.html

riddle

“You see, when you and I, that time, I was afraid it will not work out. We are like a universe apart. You don’t deserve me. I am workaholic. I thought to marry someone I like and someone who is from here, so that I know the relationship will work out. I grew fond of that someone and learned to love that person later on. But despite the fact that we are on the same country, the same land under the same sky, it still did not work out.

My side is I did not want to waste your time or our time because we are a world apart. And I am sure you know that it’s not easy, and it’s true. I was afraid to take the risk of moving on with our situation because I have always been told that long distance relationship never works. Sometimes, I wonder how to solve or find answers to the mystery I find in my own life. With my profession, things like such should be easy to comprehend. But no.”

Thoughts? Send it to info.thecuriousme@gmail.com

viewpoint

courtesy of dreamstime.com — love triangle

Ready?
(Note: Check out the article “baffled?” for a sneak preview of this article.)

Mitch (served as the moderator)

Pro Yno
believed that Yno can take care of the relationship better than Alex.

Scott

made an effort to be neutral but obviously Pro Alex
hoped that Yno is the type who’s there even if how many years have passed like Alex

Robert

clearly Pro Alex

TheCuriousMe

cautiously Pro Yno

Below are insights of the “relationship council” about the issue:
(Just a heads up, Mitch and Scott preferred to throw more facial expressions than comments.)

In the end, what’s important the most is the guy who accepts Buffy’s imperfections and will move the earth just to be with her. And of course, the love should be mutually shared by both parties.(found in cool vs class)

Darn! Be it Korean, Taiwanese, Singaporean, Filipino and American TV Series… it seems like this is even better than all the TV Series that I’ve watched! Whoa! I wonder what will be the ending of this intricate love story?

Will Buffy end up with Alex? or
Will Buffy end up with Yno? or
Will Buffy end up with someone else?
Will Buffy end up unattached?

What’s your take on this? 😉

situation 1

“The communication between the guy and the lady resurrected after few months. An opportunity paved the way for them to be in the same time zone in which gave the guy a chance to visit the lady and “propose”. Is it happily ever? 😉 Think again… Last minute, the guy chicken out due to petty (childish) reason. O_O ” (found in my thoughts… exactly!)

Scott: It will make anyone wonder what Yno would have done.

Robert: Imagine how boyish it would be to approach the girl and the guy is already pissed. Of course, he will most probably blurt out in front of other people “what are you doing and who is this guy?”
Considering the fact that Alex is more of a serious type person and a lawyer, if I were him, I would have probably taken things literally.

TheCuriousMe: Thats the point, he’s a lawyer. He should very well know that there’s always the other side of the coin. You cannot give a verdict based on a circumstancial evidence. You have to see both sides.

go back to viewpoint

situation 2

Alex is expressing his intent to reunite with Buffy after several years of being “apart”.
Yno yearns to be a part of Buffy’s life
Buffy is somewhat growing closer to Yno but trying to restrain herself because things seem to be bizarre at the moment.

together

Robert:
I have ended a relationship before and I’m a man. I could simply move on real quick because it didn’t affect me or I cannot move on and can’t let go because I still want the girl back.

Buffy is being too hard to herself. She is driving Alex away because of bitterness or anger. And there’s a bit of denial on that.

TheCuriousMe:
May the best man wins! Obviously Alex and Yno are just more on hype. No concrete action. They should buck up!

go back to viewpoint

situation 3

Why don’t just Alex muster up the courage to go to Buffy’s place directly talk to her?

courtesy of http://www.animalclipart.net — bok bok bok!

Robert: How will Alex do that now when it shows that Buffy is already entertaining Yno? I’m a guy, I would be crushed.

TheCuriousMe: Alex chickens out easily. Possibly, Yno is also a chicken in the making.

go back to viewpoint

situation 4

What should Buffy do?

courtesy of http://www.123rf.com/stock-photo/emoticon%3B.html — think Buffy….

Robert:
Perhaps, think things through, know if her heart is in the right place in terms of anger, giving a chance, denial, what does she really want, etc

Remember, there are things, places, people or events that act as the path – they could direct her to where she should be.

It does not and never always meant that she stays there.
Maybe Buffy met Yno to bring back Alex to her.
(TheCuriousMe: or the other way around?)

They don’t always tell you that they are the right one.
Remember, you meet several guys before you meet the right person.

TheCuriousMe:
Buffy should be wise enough to discern to follow her heart and her mind.
Both guys should prove their sincerity by talking to Buffy directly. Moreover, the guy who deserves Buffy is someone who’s willing to be with her (wherever she is) and help fulfill her mission.

go back to viewpoint

baffled?

I hope you all had a restful sleep and will be able to share your objective opinion on this matter. Does it sound like an international concern? Maybe… in a way. Ha!

Just a note, this is a true story.
Let’s get down to business.

Click on the links below to get the birds eye view (or should I say, “lengthy” recap? ) about this “hot” topic:

Here’s a quick tip:

Guy is Alex -> the Ex Boyfriend (“class guy”)
Lady is Buffy -> the Heroine
Antonio is Yno -> the New Guy (“cool guy”)

The challenge here is for you to connect the dots! Are you apt for it?

ISSUE:

Alex apparently wants to reunite with Buffy
Yno seemingly wants be a part of Buffy’s life
Buffy is somewhat growing closer to Yno but trying to restrain herself because things seem to be bizarre at the moment.

Consequently, Mitch, Scott, Robert and I (TheCuriousMe) had an absolutely interesting and intense exchange of ideas about the issue. To be honest, I thought the above subject has already been settled but it was re opened one night and then the discussion continued the next morning.

The statement that really left a mark is:

“Know if your heart is in the right place…”

Hmmm… let’s leave it here for the moment. That will leave you time to ponder. Don’t get frustrated. 🙂 Viewpoints of the four (4) “relationship council” will be shared shortly. Until then! 😉

V-Day

February 14, Valentine’s day…

If you want to know the history, search it from the Internet or watch from the TV shows… which is incidentally the “in” topic this month…

I find it weird why people are making such a big fuss with this so called “V Day”. I wonder if this is the only day wherein couples give each other a special surprise? Just saying! Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to sound like a bitter and pathetic old maid. Although, I’m old but I’m not bitter and pathetic. 😉

As of this moment, my most memorable V Day so far happened few years ago… That’s when I received a bouquet of roses, a ring, and a note. And the catch? I did not give him anything at all. :p In a way, I considered what he gave me during V Day as a bonus because V Day for me is whenever I received tiny notes from him every now and then.

However, that’s all in the past.

Up until now, I still prefer handwritten letter or a short note rather than a text message, chat or email. Maybe I’m abnormal but I find the traditional method more appealing and romantic. :p And to answer that lingering question at the back of your mind, yes, I’m single but my heart is taken. :p

Anyway, I will spend the V Day with my friends this year. It’s another impromptu outing that often end up wherever our feet will lead us. Ha!

As they say, if you can’t beat them, join them! Let’s all feel the breeze… the love in the air… and the romantic atmosphere…

Happy Heart’s Day everyone!
Enjoy and careful, careful!
Love, love, love!!!!!!!!!!!!! Cheers!

wedding

I’ve been asked a gazillion times when will I get married and it’s like a broken record that kept playing in my head whenever I hear that question. Sometimes, I still get irritated no matter how hard I try to play it cool. :p

I’m in my early 30s, and so what? As they say, life begins at 40. Ha! At any rate, I’m also human and I long to get married someday. However, entering the married life for the sake of having a husband and kids doesn’t appeal to me.

I could have been married a couple of years ago but I opted not to. Although, I suffered a lot of turbulent events because of that, it’s been one of the wisest decision that I’ve ever made in my entire life. My life could have been hell or even worse. Whew!

I definitely want to get married someday (sooner rather than later) BUT with the guy whom I would love and look forward to see and be with, day in and day out, in sickness and in health, through good times and bad times, through hardship and prosperity… Awwwwww…. I’m getting cheesy. :p

I want to spend the rest of my life with someone whom I really really really want to be with. Adoption will be an option if I can’t have kids by then. Also, I can just travel the world, earn buttload of bucks and find myself a good home for the aged to take care of me when I get old if I don’t crosspath with my “guy”. 🙂

Anyway, below are some of the standard replies that I’ve formulated to the frequently asked question, “when are you getting married?”:

in God’s time
Reaction: they look at me in a very strange way then shut up.

tomorrow, venue: Jollibee (Filipino version of McDonalds), food: kiddie meal (toy included which served as a souveneir)
Reaction: They laugh and say that I’m funny. Some actually believes it though. whoa!

next year, it will be in Las Vegas
Reaction: “Oh! How can we attend, We don’t have a budget for the airfare”

read thecuriousme’s wedding article
Reaction: None yet. I’ve just thought of it.

It seems like I’ve managed to turned the tables on them. It tickles my funny bone whenever I see their reactions. Ha!

Single ladies rock the world! 😀 Aja!

cool vs class

According to Robert E, cool guys are everywhere but class guys are endangered species. He further explained that cool guys are womanizers in general…while there are some that are not but most of them are.

Robert E also pointed out that class guys are not expected to be cool. Though they will try but it will not come naturally. Iit made me wonder, is cool guy synonymous to bad guy and the class guy refers to good guy? Ponder, ponder… Hmmm…

On the other hand, Mitch cited that a concrete example of cool and class guy are Yno (cool) and Alex (class). The heroine in this love triangle is Buffy. Buffy first “met” Alex and Yno came along unexpectedly. One thing to note is that Alex and Buffy were no longer an item when she “met” Yno.

At this point, it seems like Alex attempt to be reunited with Buffy is futile because Buffy and Yno have undeniably “something special” going on.

Here’s a scenario to think about:
Buffy can be herself with Yno. She can be sarcastic, grumpy, emotional, happy, childlike, etc. Surprisingly, Yno knows how to deal with it. And if Buffy is out of the line, Yno will tell her point-blank and vice versa.

With Alex, it seemed to be surreal where everything is revolving in a virtual world. Alex does not directly communicate with Buffy so the communication alone is absolutely unstable.

At any rate, whether class or cool it really doesn’t matter. In the end, what’s important the most is the guy who accepts Buffy’s imperfections and will move the earth just to be with her. And of course, the love should be mutually shared by both parties.

Agree or disagree? :p

twisted stories

Brady is in a relationship with Ellen for five years. On their 4th year, Brady met and had a relationship with Trixie. At that time Brady had both Ellen and Trixie in his life. Ellen did not know that Trixie existed but Trixie knew that Brady is in a relationship with Ellen.

Trixie got tired of the situation and she asked him to choose between Ellen and her. Brady said he can’t leave Ellen because they’ve been together for five years and so on and so forth.

Trixie got fed up and broke up with Brady. However, Brady doesn’t want to let go of Trixie. After so much drama, Brady decided to work overseas, called it quits with Ellen and broke up with Trixie as well.

During Brady’s emotional struggle, Sophie (whom he met in a gathering) became his shoulder to cry on. The constant togetherness blossomed into a relationship. Brady and Sophie were inseparable. Later on, Sophie discovered that Brady got back with Trixie. As expected, Trixie doesn’t know of Sophie’s existence.

Sophie broke up with Brady but he doesn’t want to let her go. Sophie being a soft hearted person (and stupid!), she reconciled with Brady. After he got back from his holiday with Trixie, Brady immediately met up with Sophie and proposed marriage. Sophie declined and requested him to carefully think about it.

He explained that he doesn’t feel any magic with Trixie. He even whined that the money he spent during the holiday with Trixie is not worth it (O_O). At that time, Sophie was getting to her senses and decided to sent him a break up email for a change. Like the other attempted break ups, it did not materialize.

What Sophie really wanted was for Brady to choose between her and Trixie and stick to that decision. The most irritating part was, Brady wanted to keep them both. What a selfish mammal!

The cycle of break up and getting back together went on and on. Sophie was already emotionally drained and exhausted with the situation. One day, Brady sent a text message to Trixie which was intended for Sophie. Alas! It must have been a Divine intervention.

Trixie asked what’s the message all about. And guess what, he lied again and told her that the message was for his niece, blah blah blah. Trixie was getting suspicious and Sophie decided it’s high time to discuss things directly with her. Sophie chatted with Trixie and even dared Brady for the three of them to have a conference in order to clear the air. Brady chickened out (what a loser!).

Sophie explained everything to her and even asked Trixie to help her and get Brady to stop pestering her. Sophie mentioned the numerous break ups they had but Brady doesn’t want to let her go.

In the course of discussion, Sophie found out that Brady and Trixie were singing different tunes. Sophie told Trixie the things that Brady told her and it was completely different from Trixie’s version. Sophie and Trixie clarified and settled the issues.

The next day, Sophie bluntly asked Brady why his version of the story was different from Trixie’s. Of course, Brady is synonymous to lies… as expected, he tried to cover up his lies with another series of lies. After billion lies, he finally admitted his fault and he mentioned that he can never lie to Sophie. This time, Sophie was adamant to end the relationship and cut all forms of communication.

Sophie thought everything was already settled. The irony of it was, after few weeks, Trixie sent Sophie a hurtful email accusing her of holding on to Brady among other things. Sophie was surprised with the content of the email… thus, she confronted Brady about it. It turned out, Brady was the one who can’t let go and even resorted to stalking Sophie.

As to clarify the matter, Sophie asked Brady to talk to Trixie and tell her everything what they have discussed. As usual, “no balls” Brady refused and did his favorite past time… twisting stories to save his ass. Sophie realized that it’s a waste of time talking to Brady and Trixie so she opted to keep quiet and let nature takes its course.

It’s evident that Brady is a two face creature who portrays a goody and angelic role in front of his work and religious group… and his other side is a scheming, selfish and rotten creature.

He’s a beast, full of shit, who can’t seem to live a day in his life without inventing stories just to save his ass and make him the hero of all heroes.A pretend superhero who’s fond of looking for scapegoats and doesn’t have the balls to face the consequences of his actions.

Well, as they say, what goes around, comes around.
Careful careful! :p

Lesson Learned:
Two face creatures exist.
Be alert, wolves in sheeps clothing are on the loose.

prison cell

Numb… hurt… nowhere to go…
… or to put it simply, your is life turned upside down…

No big deal..

Brokenhearted is out of the question…It’s more of longing to quit from the relationship before it even reach one month… The catch? You were led to believe a fabricated tale which kept you stranded in the world of oblivion.
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The story started when Wacko spotted Maji in a pond where a large group of fish convene. Wacko claims to be struck by cupid with the “love at first sight” arrow… thus, he was determined to pursue Maji.

Maji was hurting at that time because of an encounter with an exceedingly harmful whale.
After few months of nursing pain, Maji gave Wacko a chance and later on they became an item. In a week or so, she noticed that something seems to be not right with him and with the relationship.

Maji realized that Wacko was full of hang ups and seem to be suffering from psychological imbalance. It suddenly hit her that she felt pity not love… hence, that convinced her to slowly end the relationship. Wacko sense Maji’s aloofness so he made up more lies and even threatened her that he will take his life if they break up. Maji was torn and at a loss on how to deal with the situation and it was pretty obvious that the relationship was going nowhere.

Maji hoped that Wacko will fall in love with another creature so that that he will be the one quitting from the toxic relationship… but it did not happen. She finally decided to end the relationship when she reached her patience maximum level. The scary part was, she nearly lost her life and people close to her also suffered because of Wacko’s made up “drama”.

The tumultuous events that Wacko caused pushed Maji to the wall… She pretended to be strong on the outside, but innerly crying her heart out. Good thing her family and friends especially KD and MM were always there for her. They helped her recuperate and move forward with her life.
Most of all, Maji is grateful to the One Above for the “second life” that He gave her.
Aja Maji!

Think about these:
Love is not equal to pity.

If you want to end the relationship but you are scared you will hurt the other person… think about the pain inflicted not only to you but also to the other person will build surely build if you kept delaying it.

Time is essential. Don’t deprive him and yourself the chance to find “true happiness”.
*** By not quitting soon, the time spent to be with your “true love” is lessened.

The clock is ticking.

fate or ?

For the past few months, the lady was mulling over guy’s attempt to rekindle their failed relationship. Frequent exchange of heartwarming songs via wave radio was the communication medium for the past couple of months. The guy’s persistence is evident but the sincerity seemed to be lacking because he does not have guts to talk directly to the lady (refer to my thoughts… exactly!).

On the other hand, Antonio (the lady’s colleague) was crawling into lady’s life. Antonio is a typical boy next door type who loves animals and SUVs. He portrays a cold and snub facade but the lady can sense that he is fun to be with, sweet, loving and caring person. Somehow… somewhere… it moved to another level…

The lady wonders if its magic or its just a figment of her wild imagination.She doesn’t want to assume anything so she intended on clarifying things with Antonio in order to clear the air… It didn’t happen. Instead, he expressed his thoughts through songs on air (via kiss, magic and wave radio) the same way as the other guy was doing. Is history repeating itself?

The “conversation” is done through exchange of songs on air and YouTube links via text messages. Strangely, Antonio’s choice of songs were cleverly picked and apt for the situation. He also managed to find a reply to the songs in the nick of time. The lady played it cool because she might be reading more into it than she should be.

It’s evident that there’s something between the lady and Antonio that cannot be explained by words alone… even their common friend, Mitch, thinks so. Unfortunately, the situation is a bit complicated so the lady decided to “stay away” until he sorted out the matter. It’s a feat for her not to communicate with him but she had to endure.

From then on, she hears songs and see things that remind her of Antonio wherever she goes. The lady brushed it off and regarded it as mere coincidence. One afternoon while waiting for the elevator, the lady heard the song which Antonio constantly requested on air via Magic and Kiss radio. The astonishing part is, it’s an unusual song to be played in her side of the world. The lady doesn’t believe in “signs” but that caught her off guard.

It made the lady ponder if this “magic” will still move to another level or is it the case wherein, she should accept that it will never happen and should just move on with her life? What she is certain about is, she won’t dwell over the “what ifs” and the “fallin and flyin” situation of Antonio. Instead, she will do her best to enjoy life to the fullest and work on fulfilling her back up plan, just in case there’s no progress yet by December 2010. Reasonable isn’t it?

Though one thing is inevitable, Antonio changed the lady’s life and captivated her elusive heart. With all the cobweb of confusions and complexities of the situation, in the end, will Antonio be the one to hold the lady in his arms? Or will the lady end up with the other guy… after all?

That remains to be seen.

Lesson to be learned:
It may be tough but stay away until the coast is clear.