life

the one

Have you found “the one”? Or has “the one” got “stuck in traffic”? Whatever stage you are at, worrying and rushing won’t really help. Things will fall into place at the right time, just keep the faith… 😉

Valentine’s day is fast approaching so I thought this story might inspire some people.

I’ve been asked a number of times on how I met my husband and how I knew that he’s the one.

My husband and I used to work in the same company together but we were in different departments and hardly spoke with one another. Come to think of it, I mostly mingle with the people I dealt with regularly.

Here’s how our first meeting went:
I was wandering around the office holding a large envelope when he approached me and asked “Are you looking for me?”. (Apparently, he saw his name written on the envelope.)

With a blank stare, I replied with a frosty “No” and walked away.

After several months, we ended up chatting and learned that we both like to watch anime at some point in our lives. We started talking about Ranma ½, Sailor Moon, Dragonball Z, Naruto, Slam Dunk, etc.. Exchanging emails, chatting and going out for a hot beverage every now and then led to a good friendship.

At that stage of my life, I was no longer interested in entering a relationship and was planning to be single for life. I was already in my 30s and was seriously considering “the back up plan” (similar to the movie “The Back Up Plan”… check it out if you haven’t seen it yet).

Although he had been single for almost four years, he was a bit apprehensive to start dating again after getting out of a draining 5-year relationship.

Cupid probably worked overtime to get us together because it took awhile before the friendship blossomed into a relationship.

Did it go smoothly?
Nope.

The first three months was a roller coaster ride.

On top of all the typical challenges that a relationship has, we also needed to work out our cultural differences and language barrier. Suffice to say, we had some hurdles to overcome; I prayed daily that the relationship end sooner than later if he wasn’t “the one”.

As they say, if it’s meant to be… it will be.

The key to overcoming our differences was communication, compromise, and saying sorry when you’re at fault.

The rest is history.

After two years of dating, we had our wedding 1.0 followed by wedding 2.0. Why two weddings?

Hmmm…. until next post… 🙂

it’s been a while…

I’m back! 🙂

Yup! I probably should change my name from the curious me to the submarine me. Ha!

So… why did I disappear after announcing that I was out of hibernation?

*** The plan was to migrate my blog to another platform before posting a new article. I was looking into it… then life happened and it got placed on the back burner.

I ended up staying with WordPress.Com, changed the theme, and got a premium subscription for a better deal.
It still needs a lot of improvement though and a new logo would be nice. 😀

*** I had to prioritize taking care of myself.

*** Recovering from a major surgery took longer than I expected.

Now that I’m feeling a lot better… I certainly would like to work on the pending blog posts. For those who have been checking my blog site every now and then, thank you so much! It means a lot.

Stay tuned! 😉

sad reality

Quotes and thoughts from TheCuriousMe… Read on… 🙂

No matter what you do or what you say… people will always have something to say against you…
*** Accept it.

People will always believe what they want to believe.
*** Let it be. Truth will come out in the end.

It’s sad when you realize that your friends know and understand you better than some of your relatives.
*** Super sad.

Being butchered with terrible accusations and not given the chance to explain your side is emotionally draining.

Having been showered with unconditional love and support from immediate family… the terms “used and being used” are never included in my dictionary when it comes to helping relatives and friends…
*** not all people think the same way
*** life is tough.

The people whom you think know you inside and out… don’t really know you at all.

The people whom you think know and understand you are the people who pass judgment at the blink of an eye without clarifying things directly from you.

No matter how you reach out and how good your intentions are… people who you least expect still tend to misconstrue things.

At the end of the day… be the bigger person… be understanding of someone else’s perspective and be forgiving… it may be exhausting sometimes… but that’s how it should be dealt with in a mature fashion. As they say, there’s always a light at the end of the tunnel.

Stay positive and keep the faith. 😉

closure

I woke up this morning feeling awful… I had a terrible “nightmare”. The weather didn’t help either… It’s so cloudy and drizzling. It made feel more down than ever. Sigh… Ok, I’ll stop whining. :p

Going back to the terrible nightmare… it was something to do with the person close to my former special someone. In my dream, that person was asking if I’m alright and if I have already moved on. I can’t remember the rest but the impact of that dream is absolutely mind-blowing and heart breaking.

I was disconcerted when I woke up because I thought it was real. O_O I did some soul searching when I was on my way to work and one thing that hit me most is, people tend to forget the following things when things get sour:

Whether in friendship or in a relationship, a good closure is very critical in order to “healthily” move on and have a peace of mind.

If the person involved doesn’t want to accept the closure, be considerate. Give that person a time in order to digest things. In my point of view, one month is more than enough. However, be firm with the decision to end things.

If things get out of hand and the other person becomes absolutely unreasonable and turns into a “wacko” (see related article -> prison cell), ask help from the Police.

To move forward in a flash, cut all possible communication with that person. It can be email, chat, text/sms, phone call or even with that person’s closest friends.

For work related issues such as quitting from a job, it’s always recommended not to burn bridges.

And most of all, have a heart to heart talk with Big Bro!

P.S.
Have I moved on? YES.
Since when? After it ended.

How about you? :p

wait or give up?

Something to ponder on from @thenotebookoflove… Here you go:

“In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take, relationships we were afraid to have, and the decisions we waited too long to make.

If you like me, *TELL* me. If you miss me, *SHOW* it. If you love me, *PROVE* it.

Long distance relationships will only work if you both trust one another and love one another. It won’t be easy.

The worst feeling ever is not knowing whether you should wait or give up, give up or wait.”

woman

Sharing with you a “vavaboom quote” courtesy of Mona Abrihan! Here you go:

“WHATEVER you give to a WOMAN, she will MAKE it GREATER.

Give her SPERM, she will give you a BABY.

Give her a HOUSE, she will give you a HOME.

Give her GROCERIES, she will give you a MEAL.

Give her LOVE, and she will give you her HEART!

She MULTIPLIES and ENLARGES what she is GIVEN.

So, if you GIVE her CRAP, be PREPARED to RECEIVE a ton of SHIT!”

Ha! I love it! How about you? 😉

“no broken promises”

Now being tipsy makes me sentimental. :p More quotes from the @thenotebookoflove… Here you go:

“When you’re important to someone, they will always find a way to make time for you. No excuses, no lies, and no broken promises.

There always gonna be someone prettier than you, you just gotta find the one guy that doesn’t care.

Commitment doesn’t mean sticking to one person forever, it means keeping a relationship with someone even though you have lots of options.

Go for someone who is not only proud to have you, but will also take every risk and chance just to be with you.

Someone who really loves you sees what a mess you can be, how moody you can get, how hard you are to handle, but still wants you in their life.”

bring it on!

More quotes to ponder on from the @thenotebookoflove… 😉 Enjoy!

“Whatever is bringing you down, get rid of it. Because you’ll find that when you’re free, your true creativity, your true self comes out.

You will be happier when you realize you can do without those things you thought you needed the most.

If ever you feel God is taking away something from your hand, don’t get sad. He is only emptying it so you can get something better.

Everybody wants happiness, nobody wants pain. But you can’t have a rainbow without a little rain.

If something isn’t happening for you it does not mean it’s never going to; it just means that you’re not ready for it yet.

Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness. Laugh when you can, apologize when you should, and let go of what you can’t change.”

break free!

From the @notebookoflove… Read on!

“People may hate you for being different and not living by society’s standards, but deep down, they wish they had the courage to do the same.

Sometimes we put up walls. Not to block people out, but to see who cares enough to knock them down.

Not all scars show. Not all wounds heal. Sometimes, you can’t always see the pain someone feels.

Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.

Hiding my emotions doesn’t mean I don’t have feelings.

Stand up for what you believe in, even if it means standing alone.

People spend their whole lives trying to live up to other people’s expectations and being told what to do. I say screw that. Be free.

People will always believe what they want to believe.

Don’t always say what you know, but always know what you are saying.”

Cheers! 😉

painful weapons

A pinch to the soul from the @thenotebookoflove… Read on! 😉

“Live without pretending, love without depending, listen without defending, speak without offending.

Only when you compete with yourself can you become a better you. If you decide to compete with others, you’ll end up bitter.

Excuses hold you back. Action moves you forward.

Confidence is admitting who you are, what you’ve done, and loving yourself for what you’ve become, no matter what others think of you.

People will choose to blame their circumstances on fate or bad luck. Very few will admit it’s mainly the choices they have made.

Be happy in front of people who don’t like you, it kills them.

People may hate you for being different and not living by society’s standards, but deep down, they wish they had the courage to do the same.

Sometimes we put up walls. Not to block people out, but to see who cares enough to knock them down.

You made your own choices, so don’t blame anyone for the consequences.

If you don’t mean something, don’t say it, words are painful weapons that can’t be undone.”

ready?

From the @thenotebookoflove…

“If someone wants to be a part of your life, they’ll make an effort to be a part of it.

Make changes, not excuses.”

embrace yourself!

I’m going out of town for a weekend relaxation at a mineral spa and some dancing sessions. I need to unwind after that nerve-racking driving lessons. I’m leaving you some thoughts to ponder from the twitter account, @thenotebookoflove:

“Some people try to bring you down because they are dissatisfied with their own life. Embrace your happiness, ignore their negativity.

People who are too weak to be happy will always attempt to make sure you’re not happy either.

The worst thing anyone says about me contains some truth about them.

If you take things personally you will feel offended for the rest of your life.

The reason to not take things personally is to understand that what people say about you is a reflection of them & not you.

Be persistent. There will always be setbacks and obstacles in life. Don’t stick to your old way of doing and seeing things.

Silence is the ultimate dagger in an already painful argument.”

Have lovely weekend everyone! See you later! 😉

take responsibility

taken from the @notebookoflove

“When you blame and criticize others, you are avoiding some truth about yourself.”

“Take responsibility for what you feel. Don’t project onto others, blame them, or take your negativity out on them.”

“Take responsibility for your last bad decision, and then let it go. Don’t blame others or make excuses for yourself.”

“No matter what the situation, remind yourself “I have a choice.””
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This is so apt for everyone isn’t it? I guess it’s human nature. There I go… blaming human nature. Ha!

Conversely, I love the quotes posted in the twitter account @notebookoflove. In fact, I’m following that account. You can also follow them on twitter.

… and I know you are curious on what my twitter account is… but my lips are sealed… for now. 😉

Ponder on the quotes… Saranghae Curious Peeps!

lovin’ life!

“With a positive outlook in life, there’s no reason for you not to smile. Be happy. Enjoy life to the fullest. As they say, there should be work and life balance. Treasure what you have. And most of all, it’s a big no no to compare yourself with others.”

– excerpt from the article “smile” from thecuriousme.com

Keep on smiling! Aja!

note to self

smile often even if you can’t find any reason to smile
find your tongue, you’ve been tight-lipped for quite sometime
wear your eyeglasses when you’re using the computer. it hurts badly when you don’t.
work out regularly since you can’t stop yourself from eating
refrain from daydreaming especially when you’re driving
teach your right foot to accurately distinguish the gas and break pedal. don’t interchange!
ignore those people who talk behind your back
stay away from hypocrites, they emit negative energy which is bad for the health
don’t just meet expectations, exceed them!
continue writing and inspiring other creatures
never entertain negative thoughts
choose the guy whom you love and who loves you dearly… someone who proves his words with actions… someone who has a concrete plan for the future… be firm or else you may end up like a fool (again.)
love yourself
stop hibernating, get a life!
join a cruise
meditate once a week
stop planning your life, it’s not working

Sorry, I’m just talking to myself. Why don’t you do the same? :p Aja!